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Tim for asking this questions
Christine for these great advice,
you seem to really live a life full of Job&Joy.
Tim what are some of you favorite networking books/tools?
Tim what are some of your favorite networking books/tools?
best,
--Jack
good job!
I think Walter makes a valid point, you could be taken for someone looking for a useful person and perhaps not genuine / authentic. If the conversation comes round to this naturally, then all the better, but as an opening, I am not sure.
Another great resource for the power of networking is, Work the Pond, by Darcy Rezac who is the head of the Vancouver Board of Trade. In this book Darcy talks about the power of positive networking: asking what you can do for someone else first before asking for something.
I don't really use any tools for networking (e.g. I don't really use LinkedIn for business, but for connecting with cool people), and I can't really recommend any books on the subject.
In my experience, in-person meetings rule, and non-profits are a great place to meet the real movers and shakers. Volunteer for reputable and well-run non-profits at their events.
I don't think Christine means that she opens with "what do you do?", just that it's one of the main questions to determine if you can help them. I usually like to find some other common ground first, and you can do this by asking:
"So, what do you do outside of work?"
"Where are you from?" followed by "What do you do there on the weekends?"
So on and so forth. Learning how to "bridge" from topic to topic in conversations in crucial. Good interviewing books, as well as any media training for TV/radio, can give examples of this. Since I dig sports, I'll often ask someone what sports they play or take a stab at a guess. I'm about 80% correct, and it opens up the conversation to something more interesting than the 9-5.
Hope that helps!
Tim
Just finished reading your book, so I know you probably won't read this comment for at least a week, if at all. I'm in the middle of trying to get out of my 8-5 with 2hours of commuting and develop my own business. I love the concepts in your book and have already implemented several of them into my business.
I'm also in the process of starting a "muse" in my niche, with 2 products so far. They are both electronic products and I should be able to automate the entire process, thanks to the tips in your book.
Thanks for such a great book, a real eye opener in many regards. I particularly like the story about the mexican fisherman and the american business man, just shows the mentality of the majority of the west.
Thanks again
Paul Pichugin
Thanks for featuring female role models... on the blog in the book.
It may seem like a no-brainer, but there's so many books by guys who forget to connect with half their audience!
The tools in your book are excellent for entrepreneur Moms who went into business with the dream of spending more time with their kids.
Cheers,
Jo.
Also opportunities for some to suggest their own group to admin. Ad revenue is shared and SEO/SEM benefits are huge. See for yourself, Google search: 4HWW entrepreneur
You will see we are positions 1,2,3,4,5 on page 1.
While you are there, check out my "World Vision Entrepreneur" project. There's big reciprocal benefits for anybody who wants to help promote it.
You will see the 4HWW philosophy and techniques have been infused into both of these projects!
~Victory (click my Name above for the link)
p.s. Thanks Tim for turning me on to Ning in the first place, and for letting my use my posts here for 15 seconds on the soapbox!
I know networking is extremely important and I've definitely butchered it in the past.
My question is that some people are just needy for some companionship, but you really don't have that much in common or they might even annoy you. Should you keep spending your time talking to them? I guess you have to unfortunately drop some people out of the network for your own sake.
Anyway, we all can learn a lot from Bill Clinton. I wonder of the scandal made him more likable because he seems more human due to making that mistake.
It seems like, the true leaders produce within us a "feeling of significance." So many of the of self help books like Executive Charisma, tell us to "accept people as they are, not as you would like them to be" or "Regardless of how people treat you keep a relaxed smile and look them in the eye."
If you've ever tried to follow ALL of their suggestions you really gain an admiration for the ones who get it right.
Inspiring article. Thanks,
Amber Bristol
By the way, I live in Peru, and I bought your book a couple of months ago. It´ great, congrats...!
The best for you.
I vary the questions I ask when meeting people depending on the setting. I talk with people all the time, and the more I pay attention to others, the more I learn and remember that the world is full of tremendously diverse perspectives.
For more info on networking, business-building, etc. I also recommend you take a look at the resources on www.rulesforrenegades.com.
I really (seriously) thought I could live as the Lone Ranger, that I could do it all myself. I had to resign as the General Manager of the Universe to get over my isolation/control freak schtik.
Prior to joining the world of business (quite late, I might add) my life plan was to meditate the incarnation away, helping humanity by essentially avoiding it. After 7 years as a monk I realized this wasn't the right path for me. I had to get down, get into society, hang with people, that's how I would contribute most. All the networking things I talk about (the Drive By Schmooze, etc) are ways I made this awkward social ritual fun, instead of what it used to be for me: excruciating.
One of the many reasons networking is so transformative is because it is often so awkward and uncomfortable. That's why tips on how to make it less so are crucial!
It's amazing how the good old fashioned values of being nice & helpful to others are still the best route to success in today's cynicism driven world.
Maybe my mother was right ;-)
Every person I know who has met either Bill or Hillary has described a similar experience. Politically I'm more liberal than Hillary, but she has my vote.
Giving and receiving are one and the same.
Ed
One thing life has - and is still - teaching me is that being likable comes naturally when I'm authentically interested and really listening to the people I connect with. Especially the people I feel pulled to connect with vs making straight for the 'VIPs'.
For me, I go where there's spark, chemistry, pull. Like between actors, it's either there or its not. When it's there magic flies - its palpable and it can't be faked.
That kookily uncomfortable scene from Groudhog Day just popped in my head - the one where Bill Murray's TRYING to recreate the exact, and natural, connection between himself and Andy McDowell. I cringe every time I watch it.
The lengths we got to to manufacture what's magic and natural if we just follow the flow...
Chemistry pulls at the box office. And chemistry build's Fortune 1000's and Presidential Teams. Maybe it's time something we've been putting down to 'new age' frou frou' we admit is 'now wise'.
When I focus on and follow where the chemistry leads, sparks fly - and I don't have to work so hard. Chemistry (and follow-through - Christine's right on the money there) work for me. Not to mention networking becomes a pleasure.
Theree's less game-playing and score-keeping and a whole lot more blessing-counting.
When you think about it it's pretty self-evident - I mean, who wants to be 'hunted', 'leveraged' or 'played'? But it sure feels counter-intuitive sometimes when you're starting out, uncertain or hungry.
Love her reference to supreme self-confidence: a great term! I realize that it assumes likability and trusts the wisdom of chemistry, doesn't it? Supreme self-confidence shakes off (without the edgy affront that can cause friction or damage connection when you don't want it to) self-doubt when we're 'looked past' cause folks are hunting and can't see what's right in front of them: unique and real value.
What I hear Christine talking about is essentially that - value: seeing and knowing our own, finding, seeing and appreciating value in the people around us, finding, seeing and valuing the chemistry in connection.
Her focus is on value, and the accent of value is on the benefits of connection and chemistry in and of themselves, all while trusting additional benefits will follow without manufacture. It means, in the end, not on going for the benefits our connections will give us before connection is actually and genuinely established.
In our work we call this 'premature intimacy', and like the other premature problem, things tend to fall flat when performance and results are the focus and not intimacy itself!
For myself, when I (remember to!) live driven by value I find myself tapping into the 'unshakable core' Christine talks about. Sparks fly and magic happens. I am likeable. I live in and am lead by value.
And - like you Tim - when I'm there, I am (more often than not) solid in my sense of things, and square with myself, whether people love me or hate me.
Please keep the great posts coming. You're live learning - post 4HWW publication - is teaching us all, and your posts about it all as its happening is providing us with a kickin' forum for us all to notice what's happening, how it's happening, build on it together and take it up notch by notch.
Sounds like 'palm up' living to me!
lead and live from it.
Now, how many people, when I ask what they do, have alerted me to new experiences, new business ideas, new clients or suppliers, etc? I think at least 12, maybe 20.
I am called utilitarian all the time, but I only have one life to live and I'm not going to end up working until I'm 82 like my father unless it's doing something I love.
Christine,
Another Homerun! I can see why President Clinton wasn't letting go of your hand!
You have really outdone yourself on this post. What value?!
I'm buying her book as I write this, if you can imagine the unparalleled magnitude of this multi-tasking.
Once again, thanks for all the effort, my friend.
You have one stellar vision. And an even brighter and clearer strategy for carrying out that vision.
Cheers (back at you),
Dominic Hrabe
Even after his error in judgment ;) his approval rating was at an all time high. The man definately had/has "it".
Teena E. Mason
One time we stumbled onto the biology department. They took us into the labs in the back and we feed and played with a whole bunch of exotic snakes, lizards, and other creepy animals. It was great!
read ur book of course. utilized many suggestions and ideas with great results already. Just wanted to let you and your readers know that there are a ton of (really) old motivational books, about 50 of which I forgot I had and read about six years ago. I dug them all out and am now reading the Magic of thinking Big by David J Schwartz. Although this was first published in 1959 (a year after I was born, yikes!) it still has some of the best advice that still makes so much sense today, although some of the $$ bits and bobs seem a bit 50's! Another great author is Dr Wayne Dyer, I have read most of his many books too and although there is a lot of spiritual reference it holds up whenever you are having one of those days! which I am sure despite your great success, you still experience them once in a while!
As for confidence, if you have nothing else going for you, that will get you just about anywhere you want to go.
Keep up the good work!
This was super! Thanks!
You are brilliant and 4HWW reignited a lot in me after some years of being stuck in society's reality. I don't really know what the online etiquette is but I wanted you to know that I refer to you a lot on my website (which is brand spankin new and still under construction). I hope that's okay:)
Thank you for writing that book! Truth is- I am not even done with it but makin big changes...
Kate
Thank you.
I'm curious if anyone here has taken or knows of the Dale Carnegie course and if you recommend it. Im asking because it is very expensive (1800 cnd) but if it has worked then I will dive intoit.. pleaselet me know soon!
Thanks!
I’m curious if anyone here has taken or knows of the Dale Carnegie course and if you recommend it. Im asking because it is very expensive (1800 cnd) but if it has worked then I will dive intoit.. pleaselet me know soon!
Thanks!
Hope this helps.
Regards.
Eliffio.
Thx and happy new year !
What made the difference? I finally grew up and realized that people really do need people (for any hope of happiness in this world)!
Think about it!
Brie
I read your book last fall and have enjoyed it. You mentioned getting into an Ivy league school and doing it without the grades. I would really like to know more to that story. You said you made cassettes to sell, but later destroyed them.
In short, I put on sporting events for athletes to get "exposure" from college scouts. I do a talk called inside recruiting helping parents and athletes take control of their destiny of college.
I live near Boulder, CO. If you are ever speaking near Denver, I would love to come and hear you.
thanks
Jerry Howard
Danielle Bradley
Update
Mr. Ferriss,
I just wanted to give you an update on the contacts I have made. Prior to August 1 I worked hard towards reaching the various "unreachables" but ran out of time in receiving their responses. Since, the first time I posted I have received 2 more responses. Charlie Crist, Governor of Florida called me 2 days ago in response to 2 voice mail messages and an email I sent to him. In response to the questions, "what were your dreams and goals that helped lead you to where you are today?" and "what would you say are the main contributing factors to you reaching your goals?" he said, "I wanted to try to serve others and help the people of Florida" and the main contributing factors were "hard work, being tenacious, and having strong support from family and friends."
I also received a nice letter from Jack Nicklaus. He said his “career goal was to always be the best-to always aspire to win…more important, however, is my goal to be the best husband, father and grandfather that I could be.” The main factors that contributed to his success on the golf course were “hard work, dedication, and the desire to be the best” as well as “a loving and supportive family.”
I am still awaiting a reply from Shimon Peres. If you have seen the recent news, you will know that he has been extremely busy with all that is going on with the prime minister. But, when I receive a reply I will post it.
I realize that all that I am posting is past the deadline, but I want to take this challenge to completion. I feel that it is important for myself to finish it.
Sincerely,
Danielle Bradley